Ibby's Monologue

My friend and i was arguing about love last night (well...actually it was only him that was doing so hehehe). There has been so much things i have learned and things that i know but somehow fail to acknowledge for reason like most of us have...we are blinded.


"what exactly IS love?"


Love is being misused in the context of a relationship
True. Its easy to interchange "i love you" with just merely saying "i like you". Big difference. Telling someone that you love them defeates the idea of the exact premise of love which is something that is shared or given in the same manner as jesus gave himself on the cross, or something in that notion. Yes, love is a sacred word, no one can argue about that, but in the context of relationship...what exactly is love?


When you cant help but think about the person, is it love? when you anticipate every word you hear about someone, is it love? when you miss someone, is it love? the moment that you held hands under a starry night, or share each other's spoon on a romantic date, is it love? when you engage in a sexual act together, is it love?


Probably yes, but could be more of an infatuation.


Every one of us has this need and urge to feel appreciated, liked, noticed and ultimately to feel loved. Would that "kilig feeling" that drives us to work hard, study hard, be nicer to people, enough to tell ourselves that we have actually loved or is loved?


If we have these reasons for love, then maybe...just maybe, we are deluding ourselves. However, love is relative, it is general, it is non-specific. Its more of a word that we connote to something that we actually barely understand. Above all its a feeling.


Through the ages man has made this habit of asking and finding answers. When man became wise enough to ask "what is this feeling i have for that someone", that is the time when love came into view. We put love as an answer, we blamed love for it. If there is anything man is very good at it is blaming. We blame all the time...because we want security. Security from our own guilt feelings that we know something and just couldn't explain it.


I have the same view about love as my friend, not until i went into my first relationship. Everything changed since then, i have become blinded. Maybe what i had before with my three relationships is nothing but an infatuation....and im afraid that it might just only be a state of urgency. I was young then, well until now i am, back then i was so idealistic about love, how it should be or could be. Maybe i was caught in panic when i realized that at age 20, everybody else in the same age bracket are already having dozens of relationships, and i am missing a lot in my life that i grab anything that comes my way without realizing the consequences that could leave me numb and traumatized.


But that is the idea of love...to hurt, to lose, and to be defeated. Then we pick ourselves up, move on, find new love, enjoy new love. If love is but plain and simple, love and forever, it loses its taste. Love is an addiction, something that once we pop we cant stop, or in a lighter analogy, something that once erected we masturbate (ok, this is too much...erase erase). Anyway, the quest for true love, for the ultimate love, is what drives us all to better ourselves. I don't beleive that it comes with age or the time spent between two people to find out if it is trully love, nor can we compare it to something that jesus did when he died on the cross because its a whole new different story all together, but i still believe love can happen now. it knows no time, boundaries or criterion.

It doesnt make less of a love when a relationship didn't last for 43 years, just the same as we dont just live each day at a time but count our blessings as well, in love, it is the quality of effort you put, the happy and sad moments spent, the feeling invested, and the completeness of the two of you that matters, whether you have just spend 3 months together or a lifetime.

I would still call love as love. maybe one thing that could change, and that would be my view on it. i would still say "i love you" to the one i feel the most, it wouldnt matter. Coz, i still think it more romantic to add "i love you" after the "thank you for coming to my life".
Lets all together now.....aaaaaaaaaawwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

No matter how we define love...it is still love...we just have to use it wisely...

on that cue Mr. DJ please play this song for me by Jars of Clay...Show you love hehehe

Speak-
say the words that no one else will ever say
Love-
love like the world we know is over in a day

I'm gonna show you love in every language
I'm gonna speak with words that need no form
I'm gonna give you what you never had before

You're beautiful
and I'm weakened by the force of Your eyes
so shine bright to separate the truth from the lies
I'm gonna show you love
So tie me to a tree and let the smoke and ash collect
No, I won't regret to let love do what love will let
We can drown in mixed emotions
or walk an angry sea
this is the cost of being free

I'm gonna show you love in every language

I'm gonna speak with words that need no form

I'm gonna give you what you never had before

*** i first heard this at the concert (coz i dont get to listen to the radio), and its just the best romantic song that i would probably sing for my love.